Danmore Matema of How Mine recently told Bulawayo Magistrate Tinashe Tashaya that he wanted a divorce from his wife Jesca Chaza alleging that his wife claimed that he was not man enough for her and could not satisfy her. Matema also accused Chaza of denying him his conjugal rights and of beating him up whenever he tried to be intimate with her. Narrating his case, Chaza said,
I am customarily married to Jesca Chaza and she’s verbally and physically abusing me. She is in the habit of insulting me with vulgar language in the presence of our six-year-old daughter and saying bad things about my relatives.
She is also denying me conjugal rights saying I am not man enough and that there are better men than me. She beats me up every time I touch her, even it’s by mistake. She is also threatening to poison and scald me with boiling water.
She has made my life intolerable with her cruel behaviour and as a result, I am no longer interested in the marriage.
However, Jesca disputed the allegations and turned the tables on Matema saying,
He is lying to the court. For the past five years, we have been staying peacefully. Problems started in December last year when he was no longer buying food and paying school fees for our child.
That is when he took me back to my parents saying he no longer loves me but my parents refused to welcome me saying he should first pay lobola. After my parents had refused to take me back, he started abusing me by forcing me to sleep on the floor. I am currently sleeping on the floor and he sleeps on the bed. He only joins me on the floor whenever he wants sex.
Magistrate Tashaya ruled against Matema after noting that he was actually the one who was abusive. Said Tashaya
You are lying to the court. You are the one who is actually abusing your wife by forcing her to sleep on the floor and as a result, your application for a protection order is hereby dismissed.